I wonder if we are supposed to be continually moving in relationships the way we move in favorite songs and routines.
I was always under the assumption that people make friends early and then those are your friends for life. Maybe you add another here and there, but your core friends remain the same.
But life does not seem to work that way. People move on, their routines drift away from yours, and you don’t see each other any more. For lack of better words, friends drop off. And I’m starting to think that maybe that’s okay, maybe that’s natural as long as you are continually adding new friends. The problem only comes when you are drifting away from friends and not making any new ones to replace them.
I still don’t know 100% what I think about this, but I’ve been thinking about it a lot as a young idealist in the post-college professional world. Maybe the changes in relationships I’m experiencing aren’t a warning sign, but just the way things are.